本文发表在 rolia.net 枫下论坛From my experience it's a big NO NO to date a guy with kids, especially the ones living with kids.
If you like this guy very very very much, and he treats you really really well or he is very rich, then maybe it's acceptable. Otherwise you will feel really sorry for yourself later on. There are big problems to date/marry guys with kids:
1. Money (it's typical men will happily spend $1000 on the kid per month but he is not happy to spend $100 on you). His kid will be the beneficiary of his life insurance and not you...
2. Time: he will spend most of the leisure time with the kid and not you
3. Housework: because of the kid your housework load will be greatly increased.
4. 家庭不和谐。不要幼稚地以为在国外当后妈没关系。中国人的亲子关系
在国外也不会变。古今中外没人念后妈的好。
即使这个有孩男人的工资是无孩男人工资的N倍(N=2~5),你会发现他舍得在你身上花的钱还不如那个无孩男人。我的几个女朋友都有类似经验。而且很多有孩男人在离婚的时候会大大的破财。要知道离婚时能狠心不要小孩的女的比较少是真的心狠。而是被男人搞外遇等行为弄得心理不平衡所以要拿小孩整治他。不能说100%,有80%的有孩男人离婚是因为劣迹斑斑。条件越好的越有可能有问题。想想他妻子为什么舍得离婚?更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net
If you like this guy very very very much, and he treats you really really well or he is very rich, then maybe it's acceptable. Otherwise you will feel really sorry for yourself later on. There are big problems to date/marry guys with kids:
1. Money (it's typical men will happily spend $1000 on the kid per month but he is not happy to spend $100 on you). His kid will be the beneficiary of his life insurance and not you...
2. Time: he will spend most of the leisure time with the kid and not you
3. Housework: because of the kid your housework load will be greatly increased.
4. 家庭不和谐。不要幼稚地以为在国外当后妈没关系。中国人的亲子关系
在国外也不会变。古今中外没人念后妈的好。
即使这个有孩男人的工资是无孩男人工资的N倍(N=2~5),你会发现他舍得在你身上花的钱还不如那个无孩男人。我的几个女朋友都有类似经验。而且很多有孩男人在离婚的时候会大大的破财。要知道离婚时能狠心不要小孩的女的比较少是真的心狠。而是被男人搞外遇等行为弄得心理不平衡所以要拿小孩整治他。不能说100%,有80%的有孩男人离婚是因为劣迹斑斑。条件越好的越有可能有问题。想想他妻子为什么舍得离婚?更多精彩文章及讨论,请光临枫下论坛 rolia.net